Absence of Malice

At 43, I am trying really hard not to give up on love and being in a loving relationship and even being married but its getting incredibly difficult to keep hope alive.

Every single day, we are bombarded with news of the latest infidelities in the news. If i hear about Tiger Woods, and his jump offs one more time there will be a problem.

It would seem that it has become fashionable to cheat, and worse for the high profile women who have been unfortunate to fall into that category, the prevailing theme has been to forgive them and keep your marriage. Most notably in the Tiger Woods case, how many jump offs did he have again - 10? 15? 20? And she's taking him back ? See... Can't be about the money because that's what child support and spousal support are for along with the term " in the style she had been acustomed to."

Shaquille O'Neal's wife has a reality show coming up in the next few weeks that is supposed to show not only the life of a basketball wife, but the world of the groupies, baby mama's etc.?
Why and how is this now an avocation for women?

Sandra Bullock didn't even get a chance to enjoy her first Oscar, after having been in the businessw of making movies for years - she finally wins one, only to find out that her husband that she had been gushing on and on about how much she loves him and her family, had been cheating on her with a tatooed stripper? Really?

While these more prominent stories might be easily categorized into extreme cases, they all serve to desensitize people to relationships and respecting each other within the bounds of marriage. Like there are no consequences to cheating, and that it really doesn't hurt anybody as long as the woman forgives and takes the man back - it's all good. Men are being shown/taught that you can treat a woman any way you want to - wife, gf, etc....and it's no big deal.

Might want to ask Wendy Gonzalez - how that worked out for her. After living for a time in a shelter for battered women, she decided to forgive her boyfriend and moved back in with him.
Oh wait you can't ask her she's dead --he killed her and killed himself.....

Love.....oh love where can you be?

If these purportedly, beautiful, have everthing going for them women are subject to the philandering, cheating etc. of their spouses, is it unrealistic for me at my age to even think in terms of love? Starting to really wonder about that one....and the thoughts are not comforting to say the least.
The very least..

Another Test Post...

trying to get this blog synced up gives me a new appreciation for having my own and using wordpress....someday folks some day....

in the meantime today's watchwords are "Logic and Design" and
"PseudoCode"

Moving Day

Decided to dial things back a bit and now will be blogging here. Trying to administer a blog and work and do everything else I have been doing was way too much. Looking very much to simplify my life as much as I can. This helps a great deal.

While I wait on Domino's - trying to spruce things up around here a bit.